The Road to Success: 3 Things Stalling Your Drive
By Tammy Stone, The Psychology of Business
If you ask anyone “do you want to be successful”, most of us would say yes (of course!). Wanting success and working to achieve it are two different things. The real question is, do we want it enough to work for it? Do we want it enough to stay home and work while our friends are going out? There are three things we tell ourselves that prevent us from getting to the next level.
1. I Don’t Have Enough Time.
Everyone has the same amount of time in the day. There are countless distractions keeping you from achieving your goals. If Elon Musk can create Paypal and SpaceX within the same decade, what’s our excuse? The difference is, he prioritizes his goals better. The key is to understand what the top priorities are in our life. Is it your job, your fitness, your family, your money, or your social life? Create a priority list with your top two priorities. If fitness and career are your top two priorities, then (unfortunately) bottomless mimosas won’t fit into that. What we do in our “spare time” will create the results for the rest of our life.
2. I Have Too Much Going On Right Now.
There is no right or wrong answer to what your goals are. If your social life, family life, or personal time are what is important to you, then great. If you want to get promoted or be a successful entrepreneur, your time will focus on that. Being successful at anything takes (a lot) of time. Harvard Business Review surveyed 1,800 business executives about their time management. The study found “64% of Executives [admitted to] having too many conflicting priorities”, resulting in a drop in execution (HRB.Org). If you’re not sure what you want, look at your actions and what they say you’re interested in. If they line up, then keep going. If they don’t, then reprioritize your schedule.
3. I Don’t Know How.
With the internet at our fingertips, we can always find out “how to”. If we Google ‘how to [insert anything]”, there will be an abundance of answers. With no experience, we can learn how to install new plumbing, start a blog, or create a fitness plan in the same month. The hardest part of starting a big project is the first step. The idea is easy, but the next action can be paralyzing. The old saying is true, ‘how do you eat an elephant? one bite at a time” (Creighton Abrams). Don’t worry about what happens at step 5. There will be many problems at step 3 or 4 that will change what you do at step 5 anyway. Creating problems before they are problems is demotivating and unproductive.
We all choose what our priorities are. It is up to us how we spend our time. Before telling someone “I don’t have time”, consider an alternative. The better answer might be “it’s not a priority for me right now”. People will respect you more, and your mind will be free to worry about the things that are your priority.
Good luck! Let us know about your projects and success stories in the comments below.
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